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Friends Forever, or Not?

ChemMaster 30 January 2008 Relationships 14 views No Comment  Print This Post

“We’ll definitely be best friends forever,” you hear yourself saying. Your best friend gives a slight nod of the head, and you smile. Have you ever done something similar to this? Or maybe you’ve made a vow similar to this in the past. Most of these vows are done at a young age, preferably during elementary years, unaware of the changes this vow may cause in the future.

The term “friend” is often misinterpreted as the term “acquaintance.” However, friends are supposed to be people who care for you, love you, protect you, and occasionally sacrifice themselves for you. Do any of your current “friends” fall out of that category? Most of the people you know are more like aquaintances, or rather, people you randomly say hello to while walking down a hallway.

You reach your teenage age, and what you called your “friends” are changing, but you are not. You feel pressured to be like them, yet you know your parents would disapprove of that. What do you do? Your friend tells you to lie to your parents about certain activities you are doing behind their backs, because little white lies are harmless. You want to keep your friendship with them, but then, you do not want to lose your parents’ trust.

Friendships could break just as easily as changed personality. People realize that their closest friends became their worst enemies when they entered high school because of tremendous difference in ideals. As people grow and mature, their way of thinking changes, affecting their behaviors in normal life. Most youths tend to get distracted easily, daydream, and change in a way that is so different from one another. Some people remain the same as they grow up, while some change tremendously. With so many differences in life, how could you possibly maintain a stable friendship?

Here are some tips to remain “friends forever”:

- Praise them for their new sense of style (in dressing), whether it suits you are not. This often affects the way they think of you. If you say that their new style looks terrible, you may end up losing your friendship. After all, a new shirt wouldn’t change their personality
entirely.

- Give them reassurance. Your friend might have just lost someone important in their life. Tell them that you are always there for them, and that nothing could separate the both of you. They will have their integrity back.

- Try to change their bad habits, but in a gentle way. If your friend is changing into someone who has a distasteful personality, try to change this. By reverting them back to a well-liked individual. This will help them gain more friends like you as well as understand others’ expectations.

- Don’t ignore them, even if they are ignoring you. This is crucial as it may lead them to think that you hate them, or that you just don’t want to be around them any longer. Instead, try to start up conversations with them and make each other laugh again.

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